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Writer's pictureGina Vallance

Empowering Tween Girls: Teaching Them Why They Achieve What They Believe


Hey there, fellow guides and mentors! Whether you’re a teacher, parent, or caregiver, you have the awesome task of helping tween girls navigate the sometimes tricky world of their thoughts and beliefs. The idea that "you achieve what you believe" is a magical tool that can shape a young girl’s future. By guiding them to recognize and harness the power of their thoughts, you can help them build confidence, resilience, and a positive self-image. Let's dive into how you can teach tween girls the power of belief and how to help them cultivate empowering thoughts.


Making the Magic of Belief Understandable for Tweens


When introducing "achieving what you believe" to tween girls, it’s all about keeping it simple and relatable. Start by asking them to think about a time they felt like they couldn’t do something—maybe trying out for a team, making new friends, or speaking up in class. Ask them how that belief affected their actions and the outcome.


Explain that our beliefs are like invisible guides—they shape how we see ourselves and what we think is possible. For example, if a girl believes she’s not good at math, she might avoid math problems or give up easily, which only reinforces her belief. On the flip side, if she believes she’s capable and smart, she’s more likely to try harder, ask for help, and eventually succeed.


Using everyday examples and language they understand helps them grasp the concept. Connecting it to situations they’ve experienced makes the idea click.


Helping Tweens Understand the Belief-Achievement Cycle


To make the self-fulfilling prophecy idea clear, try stories or analogies that resonate with their world. You could share a story about a girl who believed she couldn’t make new friends, so she didn’t try, and ended up feeling lonely. Then, tell them how changing her belief—by telling herself she’s friendly and approachable—helped her start conversations, join activities, and eventually make friends.


It’s crucial for them to see that beliefs aren’t set in stone. They can change their beliefs and, in doing so, change their experiences. Encourage them to think about the beliefs they hold that might be holding them back and how those beliefs influence their actions. Ask questions like, “What do you tell yourself when you’re facing a challenge?” or “How do you think that belief affects what you do next?”


Strategies for Building Positive Beliefs


Once they understand how beliefs shape their actions, it’s time to help them build and reinforce positive, empowering beliefs. Here’s how you can help:


Introduce the Growth Mindset:** Let them know that abilities aren’t fixed—they can grow with effort and practice. Help them see challenges as chances to learn, not threats to their self-esteem.


Encourage Visualization:** Guide them to imagine themselves succeeding at a task or achieving a goal. Visualization boosts their confidence and prepares their minds for success.


Teach Positive Affirmations:** Show them how to craft simple, positive statements about themselves. Encourage them to repeat these affirmations daily, especially when facing challenges. For example, instead of “I’m bad at sports,” they could say, “I’m getting better at sports every day.”


Art Journal Activity: “Believe It to Achieve It”


Creative activities like art journaling are a fantastic way to reinforce these concepts. Here’s a fun project to help tween girls visualize and solidify their positive beliefs:


Materials Needed:

- Blank journals or notebooks

- Colored markers or pencils

- Magazines for cutouts

- Glue, stickers, and other decorative supplies


Steps to Guide Them:

1. Identify Beliefs:** Start by having them write down one positive belief they have about themselves and one negative belief they want to change. This awareness is the first step.


2. Create a Success Vision:** Encourage them to draw or create a collage of what success looks like when they embrace their positive belief—whether it’s excelling in an activity, smiling with friends, or achieving a goal.


3. Affirmations Page:** Help them dedicate a page to positive affirmations they can repeat daily—simple, encouraging statements that reinforce their strengths and potential.


4. Goal Imagery:** Have them fill another page with images, words, or drawings that represent their goals and the steps they’ll take to achieve them. This visual reminder helps them stay focused.


5. Focus Page:** Suggest creating a “My Power Belief” page where they write down the one belief they want to focus on daily. Surround it with images and words that inspire and motivate them.


Keep the Magic Going


After the art journal activity, encourage the girls to use their journals regularly. Remind them that their thoughts are powerful and that they can choose to nurture beliefs that help them succeed. Regular reflection and updates will keep their positive beliefs growing as they do.


Wrapping Up: Empowering Tween Girls for the Future


As an adult in their lives, you have the power to guide and support tween girls as they explore the connection between their beliefs and achievements. Teaching them that they can achieve what they believe gives them the tools to build confidence, resilience, and a positive self-image. Encourage them to nurture their positive beliefs every day—those are the seeds that will bloom into their future success.


And speaking of empowerment, I’d love to share my middle-grade novel, *Amberly and the Secret of the Fairy Warriors*. It’s the story of Amberly, a resilient fairy with a disability who discovers her true strength by believing in herself. It’s a tale of courage, self-discovery, and empowerment that will resonate with any young girl. You can find it on Amazon [here]




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